Week Three Digest — Staying in Flow

Stephanie Philp - Author, trainer, coach.

How to maintain an emotional state that’s congruent with getting your goal.

Staying In Flow

Your state of flow is dependent on your emotional state

This week has been about maintaining an emotional state that’s congruent with your goal, and paying attention to indications that you’re in the flow and attracting what you want — and who knows what other fortuitous happenings along the way. Synchronicities let you know you’re on track. When you live your life based on being in the best state you can create, you’ll begin to notice how much better your life flows. 

Synchronicities and Serendipity

Synchronicity is defined as ‘the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related, yet have no discernible causal connection’. Serendipity means ‘the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.’  You can see that they have similar meanings. 

Your own experiences

No doubt you’ve experienced these kinds of synchronicities and serendipitous events; 

  • Thinking about calling a friend and then the friend contacts you before you get a chance.
  • Meeting someone you haven’t seen for years but who you were thinking about the previous day. 
  • Being given something ‘by chance,’ you’d been searching for, for some time. 
  • Driving to a place where parking is ‘next to impossible’ and someone pulls out of a parking spot just as you arrive — or it’s vacant, waiting for you.

When these coincidences occur, they can seem like little miracles. You can’t logically figure out how or why they happen, but you’re delighted when they do. These happy coincidences often occur when you’re on holiday. Most of us are relaxed and comfortable when we’re on vacation — in other words, we’re in the right emotional frame of mind or state. Thus we attract better outcomes for ourselves. Maybe the key is to believe that every day is a holiday — because it is!

Notice these little synchronicities and take them as confirmation that you’re in the right state/energy/frequency or vibration — whatever you want to call it. Trust that the universe has your back.

Taking inspired action

How do you know what’s inspired action — and what isn’t inspired action? What does it look, sound and feel like?

Inspired action will feel natural and kind — and keep you in a flow state.

There’s no need to force anything, so just relax. Inspired action might even seem illogical or irrational to your head brain. That’s because inspired action is motivated by a feeling — the feeling you have when you think about your outcome.

Inspire literally means ‘to breathe or blow into’ and ‘to animate someone with a feeling.’ 

Inspired action will be simple; your heart doesn’t speak in long-winded sentences. So, when you ask “What’s the next smallest step I can take towards what I want?” Listen to your heart. Then act from that wonderful feeling state.

Don’t try to control everything.

Go with the flow as much as you can, given any requirements placed on you each day.  In this way, you can make the most of unexpected and — perhaps unwanted — situations. If an event throws you off keel, it’s tempting to catastrophise everything else for the rest of that day.

This type of thinking programmes your brain to search for all the other things that might be going wrong. And then, of course, you only notice what’s going wrong! Ask yourself what possibilities might exist that would allow you to turn something perceived as detrimental to your advantage.

Here’s an example

At the time I was at the beginning of building this website, I was in the USA doing some training. On the way home to New Zealand, I missed my connecting flight. My previous flight had been held up and arrived at 11.00 pm — 1.5 hours late. The reason for the hold up was deemed by the airline to be an ‘act of nature’, and thus there was no free accommodation for the night. By the time I got through the process of booking a new flight (along with dozens of others), it was about 1.00 am. 

All the hotels around the airport that I knew to contact were fully booked. So I had a 24-hour wait at SFO airport until I could board my flight home. I slept in a chair for a few hours as best I could, and then got my laptop out and started writing articles and copy for the website. If I’d have got home on time, I would never have done that writing because I’d have been busy preparing for a training course I was facilitating the following week. I chose to look for the good in my 'stranded in the airport' situation.

Gratitude is a great state to be in

Gratitude is a heartfelt emotion. A grateful heart is an attractor for miracles. Gratitude and appreciation expand the electromagnetic field around the heart, which is already much more significant than the one around your brain. This electromagnetic field can be detected and measured several feet away from your body and between two individuals. The heart, which has its own brain* is continuously sending messages to the brain in your head — and the brain in your gut.colourful-heart 

Focus on what's working out for you

Gratitude helps us to focus on what we have, rather than what’s missing. In the past few years, many have become more aware of the impact that gratitude and appreciation have on our ability to manifest. Some have started gratitude journals. They write what they’re grateful for each day and fall asleep in an appreciative state of mind. 

Others just make a space in their diary where they can write gratitude notes. In 2014 I wanted to really live much more in a state of gratitude and appreciation and make it a focus. I took a photo of something that I was grateful for and posted each image on Facebook, every single day of that year. I called it a 365-day gratitude journal. I found it extremely beneficial — and sometimes challenging. It did keep me focused on being grateful for all I have in life; friends and family, my environment, the outdoors, my pets and much more than I had previously thought about. It’s still there if you’d like to take a look. Click on any of the photos for more details.

The thing is, gratitude not only improves your ability to manifest, but it also improves your physical and heart health. Appreciation enhances your emotional wellbeing and contributes to your psychological health.

Science proves it

Here are some scientific articles with more information about the importance of your heart.

The definition of a brain is ‘a complex, adaptive, neural network’. This means your heart also perceives, assimilates and processes information. It remembers and adapts to new circumstances and knowledge.

Here are some of scientific articles with more information about the importance of your heart.

Can gratitude be good for your heart?

7 Scientifically Proven Benefits Of Gratitude That Will Motivate You To Give Thanks Year-Round

Giving thanks can make you happier

Thankfulness: How Gratitude Can Help Your Health

Other high-frequency states

Feeling calm or relaxed can be a high-frequency state, as can excitement and anticipation. Low-frequency states include stress, worry, unhappiness, sadness, jealousy etc.

You've already learnt that low frequency states attract more bad moods and can easily spiral down. Cultivating ways to maintain a good mood can help you spiral upwards to a higher frequency and point of attraction.

Key points from the last seven days

  • Get into the state you’ll be in when you have whatever it is you want. From this state, take inspired action on the next smallest step towards your goal. 

  • Inspired action will feel natural and kind — and keep you in your flow. There’s no need to force anything.

  • Enjoy the journey of consciously creating —the trip is as important as the outcome. Notice what you're learning along the way.

  • Be aware of opportunities to move towards your goal by maintaining a fabulous flow state.

  • Gratitude and appreciation are beautiful, expansive, emotional flow states. They extend the electromagnetic field around your heart and body. A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles. 

  • Watch for synchronicities that confirm you’re in the flow, on the path to your goal and in tune with the universe. 

  • You are changing. Every cell in your body is in a state of change. You’re a different person today than you were yesterday. What changes are you noticing?

Sound familiar?

I know, I've been there too. It can feel like a constant hunger — that no matter what you do, the satisfaction is always short-lived. The hunger returns, gnawing at your soul.

Or you don’t achieve the goal

Maybe you just lose interest, or it all becomes too hard. But the lack of achievement dents your self-confidence and motivation. It causes self-doubt, negative self-talk and maybe even low self-esteem.

So what are you searching for?

woman searching for purpose and meaning in life

Maybe you can't answer that question. You just know that you want more. I spent years searching for 'more'. The thoughts that drove me were "There must be more to life than this?" and "What am I here for?"

In the end, what was missing was a sense of purpose and meaning.

Ironically, once I found my answers, I knew I'd never achieve purpose and meaning from my senior management career.

That's not to say that other people can't find fulfilment in their careers — just that I couldn't. I left that career and started a training and coaching business, MetaMorphosis Ltd

Living a meaningful life goes beyond material possessions, beyond financial abundance — although it can of course — include both.

You know you’re capable of more.

That's probably why you're here. You want to contribute at a different level; to develop more of your potential and creativity.

I can help!

I've coached and trained thousands of people for over 20 years. I'll guide you to identify your mission or purpose. Then I'll work with you to overcome whatever obstacles stand in your way, so you can live life on your terms.

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